The dating world is a pretty scary place sometimes, especially if one of your hobbies involves spending enough time indoors playing video games that your pale skin can be used as a defensive mechanism in bright sunlight. I mean, I’m pretty sure I can legitimately act as a solar panel in a pinch. What’s a guy who enjoys a night online as much as he enjoys a night on the town to do? Find a girl that feels the same.
However, there are a few things you should keep in mind when it comes to girls and gaming. Things that will prevent you from looking like a massive tool or being thought of as the world’s biggest asshole. Things like:
Do: Treat her like a normal human being.
Don’t: Build a shrine to her and start worshiping the ground she walks on because she has a vagina and plays video games. Unless that’s something you’re both into.
Do: Take her out on dates to normal places and social events.
Don’t: Spend every waking moment you’re together and not boning trying to get her to play a game.
Do: Play multiplayer games with her and treat her as a valued teammate.
Don’t: Condescend and/or spend the whole game white knighting for her. She can probably handle herself if she’s played games for any length of time. Girl gamers get an astonishingly high per-capita “creepy and offensive message” income.
Do: Realize that she’s going to kick your ass sometimes and accept it.
Don’t: Break your console because she’s better than you at Mortal Kombat.
Do: Introduce her to your parents (eventually).
Don’t: Do it at Comicon or Otakon.
Do: Share funny, nerdy internet things with her, because she’ll understand them.
Don’t: Post sexist memes on her Facebook wall. That shit goes over like a lead balloon filled with nuclear waste.
Do: Trade Pokemon with her.
Don’t: Battle her in Pokemon. That shit ruins relationships.
Do: Swap off roles in multiplayer games. Sometimes she wants to lead the charge as the heavy, and a good relationship is flexible.
Don’t: Forget to swap off roles in real life too. If she’s always doing the dishes, you will come to regret it one day.
Do: Get creative with your choices, like in any good relationship.
Don’t: Translate that logic to MOBA builds. Jungle Sona is not a thing.
Do: Have an open dialog about your relationship.
Don’t: Have that open dialog on public voice chat with the rest of your guild.
Do: Experiment in the bedroom.
Don’t: Define the “bedroom” as Role-playing servers for MMOs.
Do: Count yourself lucky, because finding a good girl with nerdy interests can be tough.
Don’t: Be a misogynistic douche and ruin the potential of finding girls like that by driving them out of a community.
With these things in mind, go forth and date. I’m sure that’s a thing many of you already do, but a little encouragement never hurt anyone.
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